My Journey

Most of this site is about work, cars, and things I've built. This section is different. It's a small collection of stories from my transition: the decisions, the practical side nobody warns you about, the tools I ended up building for myself, and what I learned on the way.

It isn't a diary and it isn't in order. Each story stands on its own. New ones get added when I have something worth saying, not on a schedule.

Where my lines are

I've decided up front what I will and won't write about here, so neither of us has to guess.

I'll write about

Decisions, and how I made them
The practical and administrative side
Things I built to make it easier
What I wish I'd known earlier

I won't write about

Deep medical details
Costs and finances
Other people in my life without their express approval and permission
Anything I'd regret having public

These are my lines as of now. They may move later. For now, this is where they are.

Stories

Understanding Gender Dysphoria

November 11, 2026 Journey Pinned

What gender dysphoria is and isn’t, the six clinical features in plain language, why names and pronouns carry so much weight, and what actually helps.

Facial Feminisation Surgery and Loving Who I See

November 11, 2026 Journey

Nine phone calls to find the right surgeon, a twelve-and-a-half-hour operation in Santa Monica, and the week I waited before letting myself look in a mirror.

Becoming Alice in the Eyes of the Law

November 9, 2026 Journey

Changing my name legally in North Carolina: the application, the envelope waiting on my desk, and the long list of everything that had to catch up. With an outline of the current process, in case it helps.

Coming Out at Work: Finally Alice Everywhere

November 7, 2026 Journey

I'd been Alice everywhere except work. A new project, a few days in the mountains, one email to about sixty people, and what happened when I pressed send.

Why I'm Writing This

November 6, 2026 Journey

A short note on why this section exists, what I hope it does, and why I've put a fence around it.

If something here is useful to you, or you have a question I might be able to help with, the contact form works. I read everything, and I reply when I can.